Sunday, February 28, 2010

55 days!

What a crazy weekend it has been. Brian and I were talking the other night about how many hard times have hit us in the 9 months that we have been dating. It is apparent to both of us that we have what it takes to stick through things even when they get tough. We have been through some things that even people who have been married 50 years may never face.

I have been told several times that if we could make it through the wedding planning or renovating/building a house that we could make it through anything. My response is always, "Well we are renovating a house and getting married all at the same time so we must have a strong relationship."

I look back on the past nine months of our lives and think of all the fun times Brian and I have had. We have a boat so we spent the summer boating. He took me to Myrtle Beach...if anyone ever offers for you to go there just know it is not a good beach...it's almost as bad as Galveston. That trip was 4 days and we both ended up so sunburned the 2nd day that we spent the last two days just hanging out in the condo. Making day trips to the mountains which is what spurred us getting married in the mountains. There are so many more good times but I wont speak them all.

I also look back and realize there were some rough times, times where we both looked at each other and wondered, how will we make this work? But in the end love always prevailed and we always found a common ground. Brian's job has had a rough nine months which rubs off into your daily life as much as we try not to allow it too. It's hard to not think about the possibility of being laid off in the near future when making decisions on how to spend your money on your time off.

This weekend Brian and I finally got our wedding bands ordered. We also registered at Home Depot because Sears gift registry never really worked for us. Unfortunatly, Home Depot does not carry coffee makers (which is a big reminder of why I like Lowes better) so I was not able to register for my coffeemaker there.

We have had a very interesting journey recently but have always kept each other number one in our lives and made sure that our lives together were more important than anything else. The next 55 days are going to fly by, but I am so ready to start the next chapter of our lives together...and hey Brian will be moving to day shift for May and June which means normal sleep schedule, which in turn means more time on the lake!

Thursday, February 25, 2010

58 days

I have a very dear friend who has recently started blogging. She told me I should blog the first year of our marriage. I keep reading her blog and decided I didn't want to wait until April 24th to start blogging. This is basically going to be a chance for us to share with our friends and families the journey we are taking while planning the wedding and at least the first year of our marriage. After the first year I will make the determination to continue blogging or to just let it be.

So, there are only 58 days until our big day! At the end of the day several times a week Brian and I talk about what we all needs to be done before the wedding. We have finally gotten down to just a few things left. When I got home from work last night we discussed buying our wedding bands, and registering at Sears (Brian needs some man things). After I cooked dinner we headed to the mall. We didn't really have any luck with wedding bands, so we decided to hit sears for the registry.

We walked in and decided to look around a little before we actually started to register...last time we ended up with 20 comforters/duvet covers and yes I really said 20!! Finally we decided we would begin to register. We found an associate, who had to find a manager to help us register. The lady told us well you have to start it online and then you can use the clicker (thats the best part, and definitely one reason Brian doesn't mind registering) so she showed us to a computer where we opened the registry.

FINALLY, the woman brought us a clicker! You have to walk through the housewares to get to tools and lawn and garden stuff. As we were walking through housewares we passed by the Keurig coffeemakers, and I want one so bad. I told Brian to click it, he did and it made it on the registry. Then we get to lawnmowers...we try to click three different barcodes on one lawnmower and none of them work. We decided we should just try something else. When we tried to click soemthing else it didnt work either. We got the manager again and she said we had to input all the information MANUALLY, the entirue SKU. Maria (the manager) shows us how to do that and where to find the information on the products. We leave her with hopes it will work on some other products, we were wrong. But, hey my coffeemaker scanned just fine!! We now only have 3 products on our gift registry at Sears but plan to add more using the internet....turns out that is easier than the fun clicker! Last night was one of those nights you walk out of the mall knowing you got nothing accomplished, awesome!

When you are a young girl you always think about what you want in your wedding and expect it to all be easy. I mean seriously, you think about something you want and then imagine it and a picture of it comes into your mind. Planning the real life grown-up wedding is not always as easy as dreaming it and you've got it. Through this process I have learned there are a lot of decisions to be made that you dont think of as a kid, or that you did think of as a kid when it was just imaginary therefore it was free. Brian and I have learned a lot about compromising and about choosing your battles.

The first reception location we visited gave us an awesome event coordinator. One of the first things he said to us was how nice it was to see just the bride and groom looking at locations. Often times the bride and her family and friends can become overwhelming and completely overlook the groom and what he wants. Brian and I have made it a point to plan this wedding just the two of us. Now, don't get me wrong we have tried to include our parents, but for all the big decisions he and I made them together without anyone elses input.

Love is about sacrifice and compromise.